What women don’t tell: It is ok if you use porn

Men are visual and sexual beings. Guys thrive on what they see and can’t help but look at every woman, set of breasts or booty that walks by. Some research indicates that they think of sex every 1-3 minutes and some adolescents will tell you it’s more often than that. In combination with that factor is the real physical drive for men to ejaculate when there is a build-up of semen and sperm in the body. Because the body produces semen consistently, and it is not reabsorbed when not used, it has to be released.

Nowadays “sexting” is part of most people’s life, and even in this situation men and women take a different route. While men will mostly communicate with images, women will send text! Alright, visual it is then, let’s be more specific: the male vision is a “hunter” vision, meaning he has a funnel focused one and ill always look at the “point of focus”. Now, back to more physical stuff.

Guys make individual choices about how they achieve that physical release, and some men believe that using porn is acceptable. Unfortunately, our society has also made using porn more acceptable to the general public and it isn’t as hidden as it once was. Sitcoms make jokes about porn on the computer and children are exposed to it through the Internet at an early age. Because of the way that men are programmed and built, porn can also become very addictive.

So, when they are engaged in a committed relationship, most women understand that they may not be able to stop their guys from using it and will tell you that it is OK if you use porn. But the reality is that it is NOT ok, and if you respect her and love her, you’ll stop. If you are addicted, you’ll use every resource available to you to stop and you’ll be honest with her about your desire to stop.

Let’s think about it from her point of view. How would it make you feel if every guy who walked by caught her attention, she drooled with the bulge of every bicep and stared at the crotch of every guy trying to determine exactly how large the guy’s package was? What if you were in bed with her and you weren’t sure if every time she moaned it was because she loved being with you but might be thinking of the last guy she saw at the strip club with her girlfriends?

Porn, strip clubs and erotica are all the same. They tempt you – both men and women – to engage in relationships in your mind that ruin the real relationships you have in the physical world. No woman wants to be compared against the fantasy of the busty, air-brushed, six-pack abs woman you were oggling right before bed. Are you in bed with your wife or that fantasy woman?

Using porn or erotica diminishes the relationship you have with your partner and creates a chasm that you may never be able to cross again as it progresses. If she says that she’s ok with it, she probably isn’t. And, if she is – then she’s doing something behind your back that she doesn’t want you to know about.

Use your brain to create situations with your partner and use the “pressure” to make her happy!

Be You, Be Two, Be New!

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