Conflict is important in every relationship.
It’s a means of learning more about your partner and learning to control your own emotions. Conflict happens with your parents and siblings growing up, with your boss, your friends and your partner. However, itís the partner conflict that creates the most angst in your life, the most hurt and pain and develops the deepest bonds with them as well.
You don’t have be in conflict or have a disagreement with your partner to develop a deep bond, but if you are and do it right, then you can end up with a deeper connection.
The primary means of developing that bond is to remain humble in your relationship and be ready and willing to admit your part of the mistake or problem.
As you are humble and own up to the piece of the puzzle for which you are responsible, it indicates to your partner that you are mature, ready to admit your part of the responsibility and that you have the same expectations of your partner. In other words, you are modeling the behavior that you want to interact with in your relationship.
There are more benefits to being humble, that also relate to improving your relationship with your partner. One of those benefits is the ability to remain peaceful. That peace also helps you to better stay in control, one of the important rules of conflict or arguing. Peace, control and being humble also leads to improved performance at work and greater productivity. All of this from working toward being humble to please your partner.
And of course, as you might imagine, people who are humble also appear to enjoy better relationships. In a study published in Self and Identity, researchers looked at two longitudinal studies which demonstrated that the trait of humility was associated with greater acceptance by others and that there is support for the character trait of humility that can help repair and form relationships with deeper bonds.
Men who exhibit characteristics of being humble are also better leaders at home and in the work place.
These are the people that others will follow and enjoy working for. Humility doesn’t mean that you are putting yourself down or putting yourself last. Instead it means you are willing to hear others, accept when you are wrong but also are ready to lead based on the knowledge and information you have.