When reading articles or books on relationships, women tend to come out smelling of roses. Is that because they are better at being lovers? Or is it because more of these types of books are written by women?
Men and women make mistakes in relationships. We are human beings and that means that we often do not get everything completely right. We may not mean to hurt people but either from lack of thought or consideration we do.
When you are part of a couple, you need to have a little patience with your other half. They are not mind readers, especially not men – trust me. They cannot be expected to know what to do or say if you don’t give them a few hints. They have their own issues and may be preoccupied with something important. It doesn’t mean that they don’t love you anymore or find you less attractive.
On the other hand if your partner lies, cheats or fails to keep his/her word, this is a problem. This shows a lack of respect for you as a person and for your partnership. You need to make sure that they know that this is not acceptable behavior and you will not tolerate it.
Women can often be insecure and lack confidence. As can men. These issues while affecting the individual also affect the couple. It is not your partners’ role to make you have more confidence. Sure they should believe in you and show you how they feel but at the end of the day, you and only you can build up your self worth.
Try surprising your partner: buy her flowers when it isn’t a special occasion. Cook him a meal because you want to not for any other reason. Spontaneous gestures of affection go a long way to building a harmonious household.
For the men out there, did you know that if you do more housework you generally get more sex? This is the result of a recent study. Why not try the theory and see if it proves true. Even if it doesn’t get you the desired outcome, it is sure to earn you some extra brownie points.
Strengthen your relationship by having plenty of intimate contact. It releases a bonding hormone called oxytocin helping you to stay together and weather the storms that all couples face.
Don’t let stereotypes ruin your relationship. Your wife may hate shopping and you may remember every birthday or special occasion. Just because the books say men are useless at remembering dates and women love to burn holes in credit cards doesn’t mean it applies to you and your other half.
Remember all the reasons why you got together in the first place. Her smile, his ability to make you laugh. Remembering the fun times and the initial spark will help you to deepen the existing bonds between you. Shared memories, mutual trust and respect and having fun together are all ingredients of a great relationship. Women will agree with that, I’m sure of it!
Be You, Be Two, Be New