Intimacy is not really a stage in a relationship building but rather a benefit of committed love that you just can’t experience anywhere else.
Unfortunately, some women, searching for that experience of intimacy, will mistake sex for love and sex for intimacy in a relationship. But, both are different and both are important. It is important not to put the horse before the cart, and first seek commitment and intimacy before receiving the physical pleasure. Putting sex first dishonors the joys of sex and makes it nothing more than a physical act. Which by the way is the way the male brain perceives sex … reproduction!
Something deep inside each of us craves intimacy, which is probably why we sometimes take the shortcut of hopping into bed. Intimacy and friendship is the basis behind many of today’s comedy shows. One in particular, “Cheers”, used that concept in their opening song.
“Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name,
And they’re always glad you came.
You wanna be where you can see our troubles are all the same,
You wanna be where everyone knows your name.”
Intimacy is being vulnerable with your partner and allowing them to “see” into you and being able to ë”seeí” into them.
Intimacy means being authentic, transparent and vulnerable – all at the same time.
You can see how you can be in a committed relationship, where divorce/break-up is not an option, but still not intimate with your partner. Commitment means you won’t leave but intimacy means mixing your lives, your souls and your hearts as one – and still loving the other person.
Real intimacy comes only after you’re committed to your partner. You can be committed without intimacy but can’t be intimate without commitment. Allowing yourself to be intimate with your partner demands that you are committed. However, you can be physically intimate without being emotionally intimate.
Knowing the stages of a relationship helps you to determine how far you’ve gone, how far you have to go and whether or not this is the journey you want to take with this partner. But you still need to learn the tips and tricks to survive all the stages in your relationship’s life : you can find the unique ones HERE!
Be You, Be Two, Be New,