It seems like in todays society relationships go from one extreme to another. Either no one bothers to work on their relationship and they let it just slip away, or they become obsessive and sometimes dangerous. Finding broken relationship help is easy. Following it, not so much.
Before you start trying to put your relationship back together this would be a good time to really, and honestly, decide if the relationship should really be saved. Let’s face it, not all relationships should continue. The complex part of the following process is to be honest with your inner self, whit your instinctual brain?-.
If you decide after careful soul (what I call the instinctual brain) searching that your relationship is worth saving than you can use the following 3 steps to help fix your love life and get your relationship back on track:
1) Be honest. Be brutally honest with yourself. This is the hardest thing you will do, especially as the part of your brain from where you want to get this information from isn’t a great communicator. It’s not easy to admit to yourself that you were wrong. Whether you were wrong about the way you handled things in your relationship or you were wrong about the value of the relationship itself you have to take stock before you can move forward.
Once you’ve honestly evaluated your relationship and your part in the deterioration of it you can decide if you are ready and willing to make the changes needed to make the relationship work. Again, this is the time for brutal honesty. If you really don’t think you care enough to work on fixing the problems, both yours personally and the relationship problems in general, than its’ time to cut your losses and move on.
And don’t try to fix it form some rational reason, parents will be happy, will look good in front of friends etc…
2) Talk. Honest communication seems to be so difficult for a lot of people today. That is one of the most important skills you can learn if you want to have a loving relationship. Remember though, it takes two. Even if you are capable of having an honest, open, and adult conversation, if your partner isn’t than there is nothing you can do.
3) Be ready to sincerely apologize for your mistakes and your part in the deterioration of the relationship. The two of you have to be able to work together and that means accepting responsibility for your mistakes. If you or your partner is unable or unwilling to admit fault and apologize than the hurts and resentments will continue to mount and it will be very difficult to save your relationship.
By dedicating yourself to following this broken relationship help with your partner you have a very good chance of having the type of honest, respectful and loving relationship you really want. Just be sure that its’ what your partner wants too.
Be You, Be Two, Be New!